I always felt there are two types
of deewanein (plural for deewana (m.) – noun, meaning “crazy in
love”) in the world. One who writes poems or songs and try to win over someone’s
heart with his so called sincere ways and the second kind would do whatever it
takes, being boundless, brazen and even brash. A parallel can be drawn to how
many people approach towards another four letter word which also starts with G
and ends in an L, GOAL. Everyone has at least one if not many and like in most
cases our approach towards our goal(s) are different.
The first kind of deewana is often timid, shy and passive.
He might be the most talented and capable of the lot, but that doesn’t necessarily
mean he will or should get the girl and as often is the case, the girl may not
even know of his existence. He spends his time dreaming about the girl, using
her pic(s) as wallpapers, writes poems/songs for her, becomes delusional and thinks
that what he is doing is going to get him the girl. He has false hopes that she
will somehow notice him for whatever small attempts he makes to gain her
attention. The second kind of deewana
is confident, bold and doesn’t even mind making a fool of himself in front of
dozens. He may not have the talent or the abilities to back up his confidence,
his boldness maybe be borderline stupidity, but what the hell, he did get
noticed and more often than not will be given a chance. He is someone who does it research, knows the
likes and dislikes of the girl, gets her favorite flowers and hands them in
person. He probably even would tell a few white lies (I am in no way suggesting
any of you to do this) and makes her believe that he is the right one for her. And
in the end, he gets the girl.
People often complain about how
things are not working out the way they want them to and these people think
that they are working hard and doing all the right things and yet achieving no
success. They are like the first kind of deewana.
They should take a good long look at their efforts, because those things you
think are right might not be the ones that would actually help you achieve your
goals. They should learn from that nobody (or so you think of him/her) who is
getting the job you want, the promotion you deserve or winning that award etc. because
he/she is doing something right. That right thing maybe unethical and in some
cases borderline illegal, but his/her aggressive approach is what is making
him/her a winner. You should have such an approach towards your goals. You
cannot just try a few things and then complain that they are taking you nowhere.
Remember the world is not a fair place and the nice guy may never get the girl,
so be like the second kind of deewana,
not that I would recommend you to lie, cheat or do anything illegal, but do
bend the rules, stretch the limits of the truth and do the things that would
actually get to your goal.
